William & Amelia Pattenden
of East Grinstead
William Pattenden, the second son of John and Elizabeth, was baptised in East Grinstead, Sussex, on 14 May 1786.
Amelia Dearling was born in Horne, Surrey, where she was baptised as Mille, daughter of William and Mary on 10 October 1790 .
William married Amelia in East Grinstead on 21 October 1814 and they had the following children baptised:
|Amelia||5 Nov 1815||Lingfield, Sry|
|George||13 Dec 1818||East Grinstead|
|James||22 Dec 1820||East Grinstead|
|John||1 Jun 1823||East Grinstead|
|Stephen||21 Aug 1825||East Grinstead|
|Mary||6 Jan 1828||East Grinstead|
|Thomas||12 Sep 1830||East Grinstead|
Mary's parents were recorded as William and Mildred in the baptism register but from other evidence it is clearly the same family.
It seems likely that William worked in the timber industry for most of his life and at the 1841 census he was shown as a lath render. Also with him was his wife Amelia, children John, shown as a brewer, and Thomas and a grand-daughter, Caroline, the illegitimate daughter of Amelia who had since married to William Haesman.
The East Grinstead Tithe of 1842 lists William Pattenden as owner of a cottage, and just over six acres of land, in the area of what are now the allotments in Imberhorne Lane.
In 1851 William, by then 67, was described as a brewer living at East Grinstead Common with his wife, their son Thomas and grand-daughter Caroline (shown as niece). Thomas was also a brewer. At this time most of their children were married and all except James were living within a few houses of each other on East Grinstead Common.
William died on 29 March 1852 and was buried at St Swithuns, East Grinstead. In his will, made in 1841, he descibed himself as a shopkeeper and left everything to his wife Amelia.
Headstone at St Swithuns
photo courtesy of Isobel Holman
The 1861 census shows Amelia as a carpenter’s widow living as an inmate at Sackville College, East Grinstead, where she died in 1869, aged 78, and was buried in East Grinstead Cemetery on 1 May.
Of their children:
Amelia had a daughter, Caroline, baptised in East Grinstead on 25 September 1835. She later married William Heasman, a lath cleaver in the timber industry, and they had about eight children in the East Grinstead area before moving to Redhill in 1866.
- George was a sawyer and he and his wife, Harriett, had eight children:
Mary Jane Q4 1841 Horne, Sry Eliza Q3 1843 Horne, Sry Anna Q1 1846 Horne, Sry James Q1 1848 Horne, Sry Harriet Q2 1850 East Grinstead, Ssx William Q4 1852 Horne, Sry Charles Q4 1857 Godstone, Sry Fanny Q4 1860 Kennington, Sry
- James married Mary Criswell in 1849 and they had three children:
Ann Q2 1850 Godstone Mary Q2 1853 Godstone Henry James Q3 1861 Godstone
- John married Frances Walder in 1845 and they had six children:
Amelia Q3 1846 East Grinstead Alfred Q3 1847 East Grinstead Thomas Q1 1849 East Grinstead Agnes Q3 1850 East Grinstead Charles Q4 1851 East Grinstead Kate Q2 1856 East Grinstead
- Mary, aged 13, appears to have been working as a servant in Crawley in 1841. Her first marriage was to Henry Kenward in 1843, when she was probably still only 15. However, there were no known children and Henry died in 1845. Mary then married William Dyer on 3 August 1846 witnessed by her brother, George, and his wife, Harriet. Mary and William had one son:
William Dyer Q3 1847 Lingfield
At the 1851 census Mary was shown as a married seamstress living at East Grinstead Common with her son and a lodger, George Holman. Her husband has not been found, either in this census or in any subsequent record!
Mary married her lodger, George Holman, a labourer, in 1855 and appears to have had 5 children by him:
Ann Dyer bapt. 30 May 1852 East Grinstead, St Swithun Alice Holman ca. 1855 East Grinstead Caroline Holman Q3 1861 East Grinstead Annette Holman Q1 1860 East Grinstead Alan Holman Q2 1864 East Grinstead
Mary and George continued to live in the East Grinstead Common area until Mary died in 1909 and George in 1910.
- Thomas was a brewer working with his father in 1851. By 1861 he had married Harriet, moved to Godden Green, Seal in Kent and Thomas was working as a carpenter, which he did for the rest of his life. Their children were:
William Q3 1855 East Grinstead Mary Q1 1860 Sevenoaks, Kent Anna Q1 1863 Seal, Kent Harriet Q4 1865 Seal, Kent Caroline Q2 1868 Seal, Kent Alice Q3 1870 Seal, Kent Thomas Edmund Q1 1877 Seal, Kent